The phrase “you need to” means you are probably offering advice the other person does not want. While exchanges of perspectives and information can be good, too much of a good thing can perpetuate a feeling of defeat. In this podcast we will explore ways to eliminate defeat at home by finding positive alternatives to “you need to.”
Something to Think about:
- Unsolicited advice, no matter how well intended, is commonly received as criticism.
- Your perspectives will be received in direct proportion to your willingness to elicit input from the other person.
- As your communication is more of a two-way process, you have less of a chance for the build up of defeated emotion.
- What happens inside your home when advice is given too frequently? What adjustments could you make to create balance in this matter?