Wouldn’t it be nice to know that each person in your world has a keen understanding of you and chooses to respond with appropriateness. Regretfully, though, you probably know someone who seems oblivious to your feelings and needs, no matter how strongly you attempt to coordinate. With such people you will need to exercise caution as you respond, lest you fall into very unhealthy patterns.
What experiences have you had that point to the fact that someone truly has no capacity to know or understand you? How do you react emotionally in those moments?
When our emotions and communications become problematic, it is almost always connected to blurred relationship boundaries. We can be so consumed by having harmony that we behave in troublesome ways when it is not happening. In this podcast we will identify cues indicating blurred boundaries, then we will look at the better alternatives.
Name 2 or 3 illustrations of times when your emotions or behaviors are tied too heavily to the other person’s responses. How would clear boundaries prompt you to respond differently?
When tensions and conflicts arise many people have a tendency to communicate with forcefulness or stubbornness leading the way. Common sense says that there are a variety of ways to look at any issue, so it would be wise to stay away from exaggerated attitudes in favor of modesty. This podcast will explore reasons to communicate in a more modest fashion.
In your family, what are some examples of you or a family member operating with unnecessary stubbornness? What would be the preferred alternatives?
Nitpickers have a tendency to overfocus on common, minor details to the extent that they perpetuate chronic tension. To minimize nitpicking, the need to be right needs to be exchanged for traits like acceptance, love, and tolerance. And if you are on the receiving end of nitpicking, you’ll need to cling to your inner confidence and calmness.
In your home, what are some examples of small matters that can be given too much attention? What better alternatives do you have beyond nitpicking?