It should come as no shock when marital partners disagree and feel angry. That is part of life, and there are clean ways to address the disputes. Some individuals, however, become so intense in their emotions that their behavior becomes abusive. In this episode we will identify eight indicators of verbal abuse, and we will also discuss ways to respond to the abuse so it will not increase.
In your opinion, how do verbal abusers rationalize their behavior so it seems less severe than it really is?
Many marriages experience undue strain because they are built upon a set of expectations that cannot be sustained. While romantic, eros love has its place, abiding love is anchored in an appreciation for the mundane, less stellar elements of relating. This episode will contrast infatuated feelings with a grounded approach toward the concept of being in love.
What example from your life would illustrate how true love can exist even when the relationship does not meet ideal expectations?
One of the most difficult patterns of life is narcissism, a deep sense of self-absorption driven by entitlement and manipulation. This episode identifies 8 qualities to watch for as you discern if you are dealing with a narcissist. Once you recognize the narcissistic pattern, you will probably need to determine how to apply firm boundaries, as opposed to getting caught in circular arguments you will never win.
In what ways have you felt trapped as you try to coordinate life with a narcissist?
Agitation and conflict can be part of marriages, but when it becomes persistent or exaggerated it creates an atmosphere of abuse that can lead to nothing good. Too commonly partners can remain in a cycle of abuse and great damage is done to the relationship. This episode addresses the serious nature of abuse and identifies ways to respond if it is ongoing.
What rationalizations have you heard from people who try to minimize the seriousness of abuse?